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What would you say are the characteristics that define a real man..is it the looks alone,or his personality courage and/or ability to cry at a sad film and not feel embarrassed more important. Which I am not ashamed to admit I have done. smile.
Actually, I think it's a combination of all the characteristics you mentioned.
agreed. and nothing wrong to cry. man is still human who have emotion
Hmm what about selflessness is that a good trait in a man or just martyrdom..
I don't care for martyrdom no matter the gender of the individual. Selflessness is good but only to a point. smile.
A man
he who can raise a nation from a small boy. Showing strength through a humble heart. One with worked hands yet a soul that softens with the tears of his child.
One who leads with strong voice and stands by his beliefs. One who can see past his seed and stand by to help raise one not of his own.
One who takes the hand of his brother and helps him stand when he sees he has fallen uncaring of the watching eyes that mock and laugh.
One who leaves Boots to large to fill by any other man and one who never used those boots to walk away.
I was blessed to know such a man.
anyhow that is my two cents.
I don't think looks have anything to do with "making a man". To me it's one who keeps promises and stands by his words, loves and supports his family and friends, but yet is able to walk away if it seems a better choice, one who knows what he wants and goes after it, one who can hold his significant other when she cries or is so hurt that tears can't even come, and yet cry to when he feels the need, one who can stand up for what he believes with and won't let a woman or any other man control what he does or says (can you tell I like a man who will argue with me?) A man to me is one who has been through hell but yet is willing to stand and fight again, but yet one who knows to save his energies for the fights that truly count, one who will help when he can but yet ask for help when he needs it...There is more, but as this question is making me think of a poem for my husband I'll quit.
well the way i heard it, what made you a man goblin was surgery!
fully agree on Peek_A_Boo and Witchcraft. the real man is someone who know what he's doing and be responsible. nothing wrong if a man to be tearsy but not to over. i guess thats the different between a man who cry and a woman who cry.
Witchcraft Peek a boo and Snowflake I agree ...
whats wrong for a man to cry? as human, we have emotion no matter what sex you are. the different for a man and a woman to cry is, if a man cry on the public, he will be call as someone weak. and man does not easily share their tears to people surrounding them unless that particular group of people are very close to him while woman can easily share their problems and tears with their friends. but in the statistic of couceling, man is much much easier to cry when doing counceling compare to woman.
Absolutely. In Scotland there is an insane belief that it is wrong for a man to cry and as Season mentioned, it's all to do with perpetuating the myth that Scotsmen, are all hard men, who do not show weakness.This stupid ideal has lead to countless young men committing suicide..the sooner it comes to an end the better.
I don't think any of these things have anything to do with making someone "a man", only with what kind of man they make one... More strongly, even, I don't think there is such a thing as "a man", only kinds of men. Some of them I'd rather have as my man, though, I'll admit it :-).
I don't think any of these things have anything to do with making someone "a man", only with what kind of man they make one... More strongly, even, I don't think there is such a thing as "a man", only kinds of men. Some of them I'd rather have as my man, though, I'll admit it :-).
I disagree because while one may be physically mature enough to be called a man or a woman that does not mean they are necessarily mentally, emotionally or psychologically mature enough to cary such a title. To me it is the same difference as between a father and a dad. As it goes, "it only takes about 5 minutes (on average) to become a father, but it takes the rest of your life to be a dad".
Too true and it's the hardest job on the face of this planet
I don't see why it should be "the hardest job". After all, it's simply the way you are or choose to be, just as it is for being a woman...
susanne, well said
You don't? hmm we have many years ahead of us worrying if our son and nephew, will return from school and/or their nights out, or be stabbed or hammered unconscious.That is the brutal reality of life in Scotland, for us if your child returns hale and hearty from school and/or a night out, then you have been extremely fortunate..